"Remember To Breathe When Your Tummy Gets Tight. Breath. Let's Breathe Together."
"Use Your Words, Not Your Fists. People Are Not For Hurting."
"You Can Do It. I Know You Can Get Your Mads Under Control."
I Understand, Right Now You Are Feeling Mad. Still, You Can't Hurt People, Things Or Yourself."
"You Are The Kind Of Kid Who Can Take Care Of His Own Bad Feelings."
"Go To A Safe Place And Draw Out Your Mads."
"You Have A Choice: Talk Out Your Feelings Or Go To Time Out And Get Your Mads Under Control."
"Well, I'm Feeling Mad Right Now Myself. I'm Going To Go Cool Off, Then We'll Talk."
"I Know How You Feel. Sometimes I Get Mad Myself. Then I Tell Myself, "It's OK To Be Mad If You Are Nice About It."
"Thanks For Sharing Your Angry Feelings. Good Choice In Using Your Words!"
"We Are Learning To Be A 'Speak Your Feelings' Kind Of Family. No More 'Mad Family' For Us."
"I Believe In You. Sometimes It's Tough, Isn't It?"
"You Are One Terrific Kid!"
· I Feel Good About Using My Words To Talk Things Out.
· I Give Up Put Downs. I Stop Myself From Saying Put Downs.
· I Notice And Speak Up About Hurts.
· I Own My Mistakes. I Feel Good About Correcting My Mistakes.
· I Don't Have To Hurt Back After Hearing About A Hurt I Caused.
· I See How My Positive Actions Affects Others.
How Can We Help A Child Change Their Aggressive Behavior? First Believe They Can Change, And Then Help Them Deal With Conflict By Teaching Them Alternatives To Dissolve It.
Here Is How A Child Works Through Change:
1. Recognize His Or Her Own Negative Response To A Problem. (Own His Behavior.)
2. Learns Alternative Ways To Deal With The Problem.
3. Decide To Act In Ways That Don’t Hurt Others. (Feel Good About Making Positive Choices!)
4. Become Self-Observant In Conflict Situations
5. Use Helper Words To Choose More Healthy Responses.
6. PRACTICE, PRACTICE, PRACTICE New Responses!
7. Reward Himself By Feeling Good And Using Positive Helper Words.
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